tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38644027.post224652120360127543..comments2023-06-19T23:55:27.189-04:00Comments on Arguing India: India Sans Rants, Stereotypes, Simplicities: Of women born and unbornUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38644027.post-87133810027379607632007-07-17T20:24:00.000-04:002007-07-17T20:24:00.000-04:00Dear Anonymous, could the point be clearer? Do rea...Dear Anonymous, could the point be clearer? Do read the post again and the comments by Ishani and Debjani.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38644027.post-56385766563082075142007-07-17T20:17:00.000-04:002007-07-17T20:17:00.000-04:00so what is your point, Ananya?so what is your point, Ananya?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38644027.post-30391630770813447802007-07-14T05:12:00.000-04:002007-07-14T05:12:00.000-04:00Among other social evils, dowry also stokes corrup...Among other social evils, dowry also stokes corruption among the middle class in North India. There's a huge army of middle ranking officials in government (including those in the police forces) jobs who resort to corrupt means of making money to fund their daughters' weddings.I've seen low & middle ranking govt officials in Delhi spend many lakhs of rupees in buying cars, jewellery, gifts and throwing lavish parties for their daughters' weddings' in Delhi. Ironically, often the marriages dont work and girls are back to the father's house within a few months sans the jewellery and cars of course! But North Indian culture is so aggressive - I dont think its possible for any outsider, including Bengali women to do anything about this. There has to be a mass and radical reform movement from within the ranks & file!ishanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17669766317584371233noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38644027.post-73877695874615278342007-07-14T04:57:00.000-04:002007-07-14T04:57:00.000-04:00Debjani said... Ita amazing isn't it, that the onl...Debjani said... <BR/>Ita amazing isn't it, that the only solution to infanticide seems to be to increase surveillance on women, pregnant women!! I absolutely agree with Ananya that this will further spawn illegal abortions and deterioration of women's reproductive health. I am also wondering where it leaves doctors in the whole issue. Does it restrict them from performing mtp even if required for the mother's health? Or is that a loophole that can be taken advantage of?<BR/>If female infanticide needs to be dealt with, such myopic measures will not be effective. Why not take a look at the indulgence of dowry in Indian social and legal measures? How many dowry convictions have we really had and if they have not acted as deterrants don't we need to take a look at the reasons for that? <BR/><BR/>Instead, the lawmakers make women register themselves which obviously implies that the person registering will be held solely responsible for any transgression. As if women decide upon and carry out female infanticide all by themselves!! As long as Indian laws fail to regard the extended family as a prime decision maker, the woman will be vicitimised many times over.<BR/><BR/>Women being looked upon as equally valuable citizens may be a long way off, but until then at least, our reproductive rights need to be defended. In any case, the answer does not lie in treating women as potential criminals.Debjanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11856450820480819716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38644027.post-48720455128127929242007-07-14T04:45:00.000-04:002007-07-14T04:45:00.000-04:00Ita amazing isn't it, that the only solution to in...Ita amazing isn't it, that the only solution to infanticide seems to be to increase surveillance on women, pregnant women!! I absolutely agree with Ananya that this will further spawn illegal abortions and deterioration of women's reproductive health. I am also wondering where it leaves doctors in the whole issue. Does it restrict them from performing mtp even if required for the mother's health? Or is that a loophole that can be taken advantage of?<BR/>If female infanticide needs to be dealt with, such myopic measures will not be effective. Why not take a look at the indulgence of dowry in Indian social and legal measures? How many dowry convictions have we really had and if they have not acted as deterrants don't we need to take a look at the reasons for that? <BR/><BR/>Instead, the lawmakers make women register themselves which obviously implies that the person registering will be held solely responsible for any transgression. As if women decide upon and carry out female infanticide all by themselves!! As long as Indian laws fail to regard the extended family as a prime decision maker, the woman will be vicitimised many times over.<BR/><BR/>Women being looked upon as equally valuable citizens may be a long way off, but until then at least, our reproductive rights need to be defended. In any case, the answer does not lie in treating women as potential criminals.Debjanihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11856450820480819716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38644027.post-20099955240906772402007-07-14T01:45:00.000-04:002007-07-14T01:45:00.000-04:00Hi,Whether we like it or not, the question of the ...Hi,<BR/>Whether we like it or not, the question of the economic value of a girl vs. that of a boy does play an imp. role in gender preferences.More than 'carrying the family line forward', the obscene amounts of dowry (some cushion it as 'tilak' or gifts)that families in punjab, u.p, haryana & most hindi speaking belts have to dole out, automatically makes a daughter an unwelcome presence. being a bong frm kolkata, i'd limited exposure to this odious custom. close exposure to the culture of haryana & m.p. has now revealed that dowry poses an overwhelming burden on the families of even those girls who are prof. qualified & financially independent. perhaps one of the ways of handling the prob. of foeticide wud be to implement stricter laws & award serious punishments that act as a deterrent to all those who contribute to making dowry a reality even today.drift woodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01347336756998447009noreply@blogger.com